Therapy

Wow, the past 3 weeks we have talked about red flags, also know as "The Jerk".
Little back story on "The Jerk", My sister worked for my therapist a long time ago and actually helped type this up for him and now here I am learning it.

I have posted a copy of the paper so everyone can see it and know what I'm talking of.


For three weeks Dean and I went over every part of this paper and discussed examples and what can lead to what. As I went through this I was aware of what my ex did and what part he played in "The Jerk". It was a bit painful but in a healthy kind of way.
As a homework assignment I was to take a blue highlighter and highlight all the things that were red flags/ things me ex did. Then take a pink highlighter and highlight all the things I felt that I did, then after that I had to rate myself 1-10.  One being I am not severe in it and 10 being really needs improvement.
As we started learning about "The Jerk"/ Red Flags, I started up a dating app again and tried talking to some more people.
 This has been quite the lesson and much to take in and learn. I hope by sharing this that someone out there can find help too.


 



You have felt the warmth of the fire
you have seen the glimmer of light
It's something that you have been missing inside
Something that you have been longing to find
Hold on, to the yearning
and where ever you are on the journey

Live like you believe, live like you know
it's one sure way, your faith will grow
Listen to your heart, trust in your soul
and you'll find, the strength that you need
His light the gift of His peace
when you live like you believe

There are things you have to let go
you might feel like just hanging on
when you find yourself alone and affraid
questioning all the choices you've made
hold on, to the burning
He's leading you on through the journey

Live like you believe, live like you know
it's one sure way, your faith will grow
Listen to your heart, trust in your soul
and you'll find, the strength that you need
His light the gift of His peace
when you live like you believe

Jenny Phillips Live Like You Believe

Therapy

This post will be short and more informational...... ask if you have questions.
We talked about "System 1 and System 2" and talked a little bit about Red Flags which we will talk more about later.

 Here are my notes of what I learned about System one and two...

System One:
Conscious Brain, we learn in system 1, Brain learns through repetition, consistency, and intensity. We need to stay in System 1 long enough to make a change and to see red flags.

System Two:
Auto Pilot, Don't know how you got there sometimes, Sometimes make mistakes. If you are 'stinkin thinking' get out go to system one. (this system is like driving somewhere on auto pilot and missing the caution signs on the road).



Standing like David before my goliath
difficult yes, but impossible no
Learning like Nephi
It's his will to triamph
I'll learn, I'll try, I'll go

But how do you move a mountain
how do you soften a heart made of stone
what makes a king fall down on his knees
or rich man to leave all he owns
Chirst said believe and all that you need
is the faith of a tiny seed.

Living today in this world isn't easy
how do I face insurmountable odds
finding I'm more than I am when He's with me
my power my strength is my God

But how do you move a mountain
how do you soften a heart made of stone
what makes a king fall down on his knees
or rich man to leave all he owns
Chirst said believe and all that you need
is the faith of a tiny seed.

Jesse Clark Funk: How do you Move a Mountain